Tuesday, January 23, 2007

The Power of Non-Violence

I recieved an interesting mail today ..Something for us to think about...

Dr. Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mahatma Gandhi and founder of the M.K.Gandhi Institute for Non violence,in his June 9 lecture at the University of Puerto Rico, shared the following story:

I was 16 years old and living with my parents at the institute my grandfather had founded 18 miles outside of Durban, South Africa, in the middle of the sugar plantations.

We were deep in the country and had no neighbors, so my two sisters and I would always look forward to going to town to visit friends or go to the movies.One day, my father asked me to drive him to town for an all-day conference, and I jumped at the chance.

Since I was going to town, my mother gave me a list ofgroceries she needed and, since I had all day in town, my father asked me to take care of several pending chores, such as getting the car serviced.

When I dropped my father off that morning, he said, "I will meet you here at 5:00 p.m., and we will go home together."

After hurriedly completing my chores, I went straight to the nearest movie theatre. I got so engrossed in a J ohn Wayne double-feature that I forgot the time. It was 5:30 before I remembered. By the time I ran to the garage and got the car and hurried to where my father was waiting for me, it was almost 6:00.

He anxiously asked me, "Why were you late?"I was so ashamed of telling him I was watching a John Wayne western movie that I said, "The car wasn'tready, so I had to wait," not realizing that he had already called the garage.

When he caught me in the lie, he said: "There's something wrong in the way I brought you up that didn't give you the confidence to tell me the truth.In order to figure out where I went wrong with you,I'm going to walk home 18 miles and think about it."

So, dressed in his suit and dress shoes, he began towalk home in the dark on mostly unpaved, unlit roads.I couldn't leave him, so for five-and-a-half hours I drove behind him, watching my father go through this agony for a stupid lie that I uttered.

I decided then and there that I was never going to lie again. I often think about that episode and wonder, if he had punished me the way we punish our children,whether I would have learned a lesson at all. I don't think so. I would have suffered the punishment and gone on doing the same thing. But this single non-violent action was so powerful that it is still as if it happened yesterday.

That is the power of non-violence

Thank You for hopping by...Hope to see u again the next time..

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10 Comments:

Blogger Kak Elle said...

a good lesson to ponder eh simah...never never tell a lie cause you won't know when it will end.

January 24, 2007 at 1:23:00 AM GMT+2  
Blogger Alinlai said...

mcm pernah baca je citer ni...tapi kalau kena kat kita rasanya takkan lupa sampai ke liang lahad kan?

January 24, 2007 at 5:30:00 AM GMT+2  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

salam,

kagumnya saya ngan sikap penyabarnya tu, tak de nak naik angin..kalau saya, mmg kena piat dah..ni kena belajar sabar ni..kawal marah.

January 24, 2007 at 8:21:00 AM GMT+2  
Blogger Queen Of The House said...

But how many of us can have that kind of wisdom and that kind of patience? I wish I can .....

January 24, 2007 at 11:37:00 AM GMT+2  
Blogger Norma Kassim PhD said...

so much to learn abt life and patience.

January 24, 2007 at 11:39:00 AM GMT+2  
Blogger simah said...

kak elle
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yeah.. once u stop memang susah nak berenti..do u remember ur first lie? i remember how my heart was beating fast.. menggigil kaki..hehehehe

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alinlai
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memang.. kalau kita kena mcm tu.. memang akan kekal sampai mati.. kesian lak bapak dia jalan berjam jam mcm tu..but then it shows how serious he felt towards raising a good child kan?

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kak long
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betul tu syikin.. susah jugak nak control marah.. saya pun mcm awak la esp bila dah letih.. cepat jer nak naik angin esp bila diprovoked..

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Queen of the House
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very rarely....that made the *dad* in the story a gem..susah nak jumpa orang mcm ni..

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annckay
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true..n hopefully we can learn from the mistakes of our own as well as others..to keep an open mind.. n selawat banyak banyak masa rasa mcm nak meletup ..i am still in the process of learning to control my temper.. susahnyaaaaaaaaa :0)

January 24, 2007 at 7:13:00 PM GMT+2  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

simah, love the witing.

i think over here (in UK) they don't allow smacking. They encourage you to talk gently to your children. Be stern when needed, but not shout.

Selalu rasa inspired tengok prog supernanny / nanny 911 or any child dev progs. tapi praktisnya tidak :)

January 25, 2007 at 6:40:00 AM GMT+2  
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