Stubborness

Stubborness.

I still cannot decide whether that is a good trait or a bad trait. Just take my son baddin as an example.

Good Stubborness

If someone asks him..*how many burgers do u wanna eat?* If he says *2*... then, if u give him one burger, he will insist on 2. On the other hand, if u give him 3 burgers, he will give u back one burger. He said *2 burgers* and that's that. No less and no more.

Bad Stubborness

If he says, *i am not hungry*. No matter how u bribe him, threaten him, scold him, shout at him or even scream at the top of ur voice (believe me.. i tried)...he wont eat. I am not hungry means i am not hungry...

Take today for example.....

His sister, hatice came home from school. As usual, i gave her her dinner almost straight away. I prepared baddin's dinner as well. He insisted that he was not hungry. I threatened, i bribed..but he still insisted that he was not hungry. Stubborn.

And what did he do? HE WENT into the kitchen and took out chocolates from the drawer!!!! and he said he WAS NOT HUNGRY?

And guess what? he knew i would get angry, he brought 3 chocolates.. told me sweetly and politely that one was for his sister and one was for me... took a scissors n tried to open the package of the chocolate...

I confiscated all the chocolates...

I screamed... threatened him that he would only get his abur çubur after his dinner. *hayır. ben hala acıkmadım* (no, i am still not hungry.) he said stubbornly, looking straight at me. ...With the devil fanning my anger... i just couldnt control myself... my anger was too much... ..in the end, i deicded to put all the junk food into a bad and hide it at the upper level of the cupboard.

And what did he do?? He took a chair and stepped on the chair to reach the junk food! I thought I'd be smarter.. ı took the bag of junk food and sat on the couch in the living room while holding the bag. He came cryng to me... stubbornly trying to get his hands into the bag..to get his chocolate.. I couldnt hold him up for much longer. Yes.. he is a boy..but he has quite a strength..
I went to the bedroom to where halil was sleeping on the bed. Throw the bag next to halil n told baddin to take the chocolates from the bag if he dared... He did all the necessary tricks..crying..etc..etc.. very creative too...

After some time he calmed down...but i told him that if he did not eat at least 10 spoons of his dinner, he would be sleeping with his baba tonight. He stubbornly didnt believe me.

bed time came. Halil waited for him on his bed. .. halil got the hold of him... hugged him tight while he screamed...*anneme istiyorum* (i want my mom).....after some time...seeing that his baba's arms wouldnt let go and his strength was no match to his baba's... he said in turkish... *i will eat my dinner..let me go baba!*...

and he did.. trying to be sweet and intelligent looking as i spooned his dinner into his mouth.

And Yes.. he got to sleep with me... him holding his cat n dog toys..as i have his wolfie like dog toy under my head (sakit tengkuk laaa)

Ah baddin... her gun bu işi için.. benim gucum yetmiyor...

Yes..a father figure authority is definitely needed in things like this... discipline is too much for me...

And today we went to hatice's school to register baddin for his pre school education next term... we will be given a day and time for baddin to have his interview.. if he fails that interview, they wont accept him as a student.... and as for hatice, tomorrow (thursday), she will attend a test set for the pre school students..... she needs to pass the test in order to proceed into the first grade for next term...

Please pray for my kids :0)

am still having pain from my neck mucles... night time is the worst.. but am better now...

Thank You for hopping by...Hope to see u again the next time..