Empty Nest Syndrome

2nd day of school..3 cousins waiting for the school service..


And off they went!


The first day of school.. hatice entering the first grade and baddin the pre school (both attending the same school)



with the uncles and aunties and cousins... That guy climbed on top of the entrance of the school to snap pics hehehhe

The balloons being released saying farewell to the previous school session and welcome to the present school session..

I shooed them out of the door by 7.35am. I was ready with my trackbottom n windbreaker…Only my shoes were left to be worn. I waited with them downstairs…Keremcan non stop telling met his and that as baddin was basically sitting n even lying on the floor…sleepy..and Hatice…? On her feet watching me chatting with keremcan… for some reason, she was nervous.

7.45am… the school service came. They left for school and i….off to achieve my resolution…to lose weight within 7 months…and off i walked….slowly…but determinedly…with my mp3 on…lulled by the Surah Yasin n surah Al Rahman..(halil’s fav surah)..

From Kazasker to Bostanci…from Bostanci …towards Sahilyolu..all the way to Caddebostan…with a 5 minutes break to read a newspaper...(n watching the people on mountainbikes with envy…Halil..PLS PLS BUY ME A BİCYCLE!!)straight into Bağdat Caddesi…..into Migros for some shopping..and with all the heavy plastic bags containing my shopping…i walked home….

From 7.45am till 10.45am…of walking! And I was fasting too!!
Naturally, by the time i reached home, i could barely step on my feet.. as i was cooling down on my bed…with the fan turned on facing towards me and i chatting with my mom on the phone…..i was thinking that i had overdone the walk…at least not while fasting….and by 2pm…the zaim ladies went to visit Funda’s mom to convey our condolences (Al fatihah) for the death of Funda’s auntie….that done… and by the time i reached home, it was time for Hatice n baddin to come home from school…

Oh yeah… my empty home syndrome has started….!! Both my kids r in school.. Nur Hatice in grade one while Sabahaddin in pre school….and that was my recollection of the second day of their school day! I havent had the chance to do the crazy walk again ever since..(though i am planning to)… but i had not done non stop walking each day…from going to the kid’ school for things to setle..to the daily chores outside…. Trust me… my feet r never the same again…..ouch ouchhhh sakittttttnyaaaaaaaaa And they say that having no kids at home means that i have plenty of time to kill…hmmm…

But i am glad and Thankful for one thing though…. Both Hatice and Baddin loves school. Hatice is still in the shock of having to do homework everyday while baddin is in the discovery of pre school life is so much fun!

I have also discovered that i like my newly freedom. I dont feel depressed that my kids r in school. There is no need to hang on to them .. they need to grow n expand themselves… and i need to do the things i need to do… will i achieve losing weight within 7 months’ time healthily? That is for all to see…i do not want to go back to malaysia for a visit next year in this weight..i want to go there as a chubby person..not as obese as i am now. I also need to attack the kitchen..scrub the floors (though i have a lady who comes to clean the place once in 2 weeks)… attack the wardrope… too many things with so less time… n i can barely update my blog as i used to…

My life is adapting…into this new phase. ..the phase to rediscover what i wanna do…to reacquaint myself with the simah i know (hopefully wiser) that the simah before the kids.

The kids r adapting too. Baddin especially is learning to eat on his own..to eat what is served at school…(though occasionally they do serve pizza n burgers)…learning to discover himself..to socialize in the real sense…not hiding under his sister and mine’s shadow…Hatice will undertake the process of learning to read this first few months in school. We will see how soon she will learn…my prayers r with u both…

But most importantly, i myself have to learn to fiinsh all my work before 4.30pm coz….after the kids come home from school…i need to put my total energy on them…This week has proven to me that there should be a discipline and timetable in some form to smoothen the day…so every school days.. my kids r stuck to this Schedule…:

4.45pm – 5pm…
*.the kids will reach home, put their shoes inside the shoes closet, put their bags inside their own rooms, wash their hands and faces and change their clothes

5.05pm…
*dinner time

5.50pm…
*Praying time

6pm…
*homework time…Hatice is given homework everyday so far.. the length depends on the homework..it could go on till 7.45pm….. baddin has homework only during weekends but on normal days as he too demanded homework like the sister …i often made up mock homework for him..mainly to improve his writing skills..

7.30pm - 8pm…..
* Free time! This is the time when the kids r free to do what they please…to watch the dvd… to play.. ..(with an inclusion of Maghrib prayer somewhere)

8.30pm…
*Bath time!

8.50pm…
*Supper… mainly fruity yogurt or puding or dessert or fruit coctail in syrup accompanied with fresh milk (kena la minum susu..kalau tak nanti ketot macam mak dia hehe)

9.00pm
*Bedtime! With Yasin listening on the Mp3 every alternate days…

and guess what? Though the homework time is a stressed out time (i hate homework n so does Hatice n she does her homework like a snail… and i had to come up with stuffs to keep ker concentration intact coz she has one very short concentration span esp when exhausted)….i find myself enjoying these hours spent with them. … just me n them… my focus on them n nothing else…i couldnt do that last year….

My kids r learning n growing……n now i am able to do things i didnt have a chance to do with a kid or two tagging along… Alhamdulillah… despite all the obstacles….our life is a bliss… n i am blessed ….
To check out my kids’ first few days of school…. Please hop to:

For my daughter’s blog:

http://www.haticeveokul.blogspot.com/

for my son’s blog:

http://www.baddinveokul.blogspot.com/


OK..OK...stories of Ramadhan and the food here coming up in the next entry..tungguuuuuuuu!! :0)

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